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Anonymous asked: How to move on?

this is a journal entry on my secret blog that i wrote last year when i got my heart broken. maybe this will help a little?

Heartbreak is one of the worst feelings in the world. It legitimately feels like your heart has broken into a million pieces. The pain is inevitable. All you want to do is cry and lay in bed and never leave the house. You find yourself drowning in your tissues. You feel lifeless, unable to feel happiness or act like all normal human beings because all you want is to be dead or wrapped in that person’s arms. You scream. You cry. You beat yourself up mentally. You repetitively ask yourself why this has happened. Was it me? Was it you? What would’ve happened if things had gone differently? You run through so many scenarios in your head. You reminisce on memories of the two of you. You torture yourself by reading old texts and Skype conversations with him. You listen to old voicemails he’s left you just so you can hear his voice. You listen to sad songs which cause you to cry so hard that you feel like you’re dying. You cry all of the time. You fall asleep crying. You wake up crying. You get in the shower and just bawl your eyes out. You vow to remove him from your life, but you end up texting him asking him why he hurt you. You jump at the chance of drinking alcohol or doing drugs because you think it will mask the pain for once night, but really you just end up sobbing and drunk dialing them. You wait for them to want you back, even though you know they never will. You think it will never get better, but one day you wake up feeling different. The sun is shining brighter and you can feel your chest has loosened. You find yourself laughing and smiling again. You feel okay when you leave the house. You no longer feel the need to take 30 minute showers just so you can cry. You start to look at boys again without comparing them to him. You’re better. Of course there’s always that night where you lay on the floor with your face buried in your hands and just cry. But there’s hope that this feeling won’t last forever. You can finally feel other emotions besides heartbreak. You finally start to heal.

Anonymous asked: Is it worth getting back with your ex-girlfriend if she cheated on you while she was drunk but you gave her a second chance and she broke that because she hung out with a guy and the guy kissed her on the cheek even tho she said she has a boyfriend? thanks!

if you really think that it’s worth it, yes. but i don’t really think it’s a good idea to give her a second (third?) chance. it’s basically showing her that you’ll get back together with her if she cheats again which is not good. i would try to move on and find a better girl who will only care about you

Anonymous asked: I feel down lately, like none of my friends are real and none of them are even remotely similar to me. I've lived here for 4 years and I don't have anyone who I consider to be a best friend. School's stressing me out, and I am not someone who deals well with stress. also the guy I asked to homecoming keeps being suggestive and I don't like him whatsoever, and I don't know what to do. I don't have much guy experience, and I still have feelings for my only ex, although I'm "over" our relationship.

if you feel like your friends aren’t being good to you, maybe you should get some new friends. i know sometimes it’s easier said than done, but if you reach out you’re bound to find someone that has good friendship qualities. as for the stress, it happens to everyone. you need to find ways to relax. maybe try meditation, or take naps, or even run around the neighborhood. as for your homecoming date, i would be flattered if he is being suggestive. if you don’t feel the same way, don’t feel bad. you aren’t obligated to. and it’s normal for you to still have feelings for your ex even if you’re over your relationship. don’t fret about it, the feelings will fade.

Anonymous asked: i miss everything. the way things used to be. my best friend doesnt love me nearly as much as i love her. i thought that the person i liked might like me back, but now it looks like they don't. i want this one kid to like me just so i can fuck w/ his feelings as awful as that is. i dont like myself. i was once so nice. now im mean and everybody still doesnt like me. i feel like nothing is right and i feel empty. idk if i even mean what im saying. im just saying it.

how do you know your best friend doesn’t love you as much as you love her? she could have a different way of showing her feelings. and you also don’t know if that person for sure doesn’t like you back. also, you definitely shouldn’t play with someone’s feelings. if you’re feeling like shit about yourself right now, it might make you feel worse. it never ends the way you want it to. i promise things will get better. just hang in there

10211990-deactivated20130322 asked: i have feelings for a guy who lives thousands of miles away from me and i'm not sure what i'm supposed to do. i don't want to get attached to him because usually when i do it always gets thrown back in my face. i do nothing but think about him when he's gone and every time i try to sleep, no matter what i do he's always there.

i’m in the exact same place as you. my boyfriend lives halfway across the country and i rarely get to see him. if you think it’s worth it, you should continue trying to make things work with him. if he’s a jerk and is hurting you continuously, i would say you should cut all ties with him and try to move on to someone that lives closer to you.

Anonymous asked: i met this guy who seemed really cool n so i was like we should totally be friends! he was like that's cool fine with me but after a friggn day not even he starts tryna hit on me but i shut him down like i have someone i talk to so on so forth yet to this day! 3 months later he keeps tryna get me but what he doesn't know is i found out hes havn sex with other girls n tryna wife em up should i kick his butt or mess with him?

if i were you i’d mess with him, but that’s just me. it might not be the best idea. if you want to avoid yourself possibly having stronger feelings for him i would just drop him

Anonymous asked: i cry everyday i come home from school and i dont even know why im so goddamn depressed. i feel like ill never be happy.

you might feel like that now, but i promise you’ll be happy. maybe you need some change in your life. try joining a sports team at school, or start drawing, or even ask your parents if you can adopt a cat or dog (if you don’t already have one). if you already do, give it lots of love. it will make you happy

runwaykid asked: i need advice but mostly i just want a hug becasue i dont even know how to start but man i need help. ok thats it. my venting

if i could give you a hug i would. do you want to talk about what you need help with?

Anonymous asked: i need to vent lol im just really stressed out. im doing really bad in science this year and i need to get some scholarship money for college and my parents put on a lot of pressure. but really im just depressed because everyone around me has that one best friend tha they go to for everything and i never hadd that and probably never will. none of my friends care to hang out much but if they need advice they pour their heart out to me i just feel used and i hate it and sometimes i want to die

you need to relax and take a deep breath. just because you’re doing bad in one class doesn’t mean you won’t get a scholarship. a lot of schools are more generous with their scholarships nowadays, and i guarantee that you will get some. and about your friends, you might not feel like they care about you, but i can assure you that they do. i thought the same thing until i realized that they wouldn’t stick around if they didn’t want to. and if they’re coming to you to vent, then they obviously trust you and want to confide in you. dying is not the answer to anything 

Anonymous asked: im anorexic and im scared. since im 5'9 and my biggest fear is gaining weight and being big. i know its not healthy but i just dont want to gain weight. it makes me sad that no one notices. im about 117 pounds now. i just needed to tell someone. im so obsessed with controlling at least something in my life.

since you’re 5’9, it would be very hard for you to be overweight. there is physically no way you can possibly be overweight especially since you weigh 117 pounds right now. you would have to gain like 30-40 pounds which is really hard to do unless you’re eating junk food and unhealthy foods all day. you do NOT need to starve yourself to be thin. you don’t even need to be concerned about your weight since you’re already underweight. you need to worry more about being healthy and staying active. that’s how you can make sure you’ll never be overweight